Help for Wives and Partners of Sex Addicts

Are You Married to a Sex Addict? The Sisterhood of Support is a Support Group for Women Who Are or Have Been in a Relationship with a Sex Addict.


Are you getting the feeling that the therapist doesn’t understand your experience or perspective?

Do you feel pigeon-holed by an ill-fitting sex addiction treatment model?

Are you suffering every day without your needs being anyone’s priority?

It doesn’t need to be that way at all.

Finally there is a program that makes YOU a priority and helps YOU recover from your trauma.



A Trauma Recovery Program

Just for

Partners of Sex Addicts!

Find Out More

help for wives and partners of sex addictsWelcome to The Sisterhood, I’m glad you found us. This is your quiet, safe place. A place where wives and partners of sex addicts will find honest, truthful answers, resources and most of all, friendship and caring from women who truly understand. If you are a woman who is in or has been in a relationship with a sex addict this is the place for you.

So take your time, look around, read the blog and watch our videos if you haven’t done so already. If any of this resonates with you, as the wife or partner of a sex addict, and you feel that this is a place for you, then give the private membership support group a try. In the meantime check out the links below for more information.

Here is a little bit about The Sisterhood:

This Sisterhood of Support offers a unique, safe, private online support group for wives and partners of sex addicts, women who are or have been in a relationship with a sex addict.

We support the trauma model of treatment for wives and partners of sex addicts.

We do not believe that sex addiction is an actual disease, but rather a symptom of a much deeper mental disorder.

The Sisterhood of Support does not believe that 12 step programs are effective in treating these behaviors.

We believe that co-dependent/co-addict labels are harmful and cause further damage and trauma to an already traumatized partner or spouse.

We believe that wives and partners of these misdiagnosed ‘sex addicts’ are victims of domestic abuse.

Sex addiction is the the last vestige of  ‘victim blaming’ and it needs to stop.

The Sisterhood of Support is producing a series of videos featuring our resident coach for wives and partners of sex addicts,  Diane Strickland. In these videos Diane will discuss the various myths and misconceptions that surround what we call sex addiction.

These videos are free and can be viewed by clicking the ‘Videos’ link at the top of the page. You can also view all of our free videos by visiting our YouTube Channel. Please subscribe when you visit our YouTube channel. It’s anonymous and free and you will be notified whenever we publish a new video.

Here is Diane’s newest video. Keep checking back as new videos will be featured here.

Myth #4 Diane’s Newest Video on Myths About Partners of Sex Addicts

Sisterhood of Support along with JoAnn Russell and Diane Strickland are creating a series of videos for Partners and spouses of sex addicts. In this series Diane will discuss the various myths about Partners that have been perpetuated by the sex addiction treatment community. These myths cause trauma in the Partners and serve no useful purpose.

This series of free videos is a part of the Sisterhood’s commitment to the ‘Partners are Priority’ philosophy. Keep checking back as more videos will be added as they are produced. To view the entire series of free videos for wives and partners of sex addicts check out our ‘Videos’ page or CLICK HERE

If you are a wife or partner of a sex addict, someone who is engaging in secret or blatant sexual activities with people other than you, you are likely overwhelmed with hurt and shock. Diane is now offering coaching for Partners of sex addicts.

Dealing with this trauma includes:

  • a steep and painful learning curve
  • a bundle of debilitating trauma symptoms
  • a sense of isolation
  • a lack of credible research data on this topic
  • a doubtful treatment protocol
  • lots of expensive “solutions” advertised with no reliable outcomes
  • trying to avoid treatment-induced partner trauma
  • getting up every day to go to work, care for children and others, etc.

Having the opportunity to talk one-on-one with someone who understands this landscape of trauma and treatment confusion may help you to get your feet under you and begin to find your way forward.

But who would you be talking with?

A critical thinker with decades of experience dealing with people, Diane also provides strategic coaching to help you identify and pursue your goals in mediation processes, custody evaluations, visitation issues and court proceedings. Learn how to tell your story effectively and bring your concerns forward in ways that allow key decision-makers to use their power without taking sides.

Diane Strickland has been in your shoes. She gets it. She understands what is at stake for you. She knows you have to find your way through this with compassion, fidelity to your core values, and the courage to grow.

Blog Posts for wives and partners of sex addicts

Please note that some of the Blog Posts are private and available only to subscribers.

Rate Your Therapist

It is time to publicly rate your therapist. Somehow, some way the 'do no harm' philosophy has been lost on CSATs and therapists who counsel sex addicts and their partners. I hear story after story

‘Sexual Sobriety’ Leaves Victims Untreated by Dr. Minwalla

This article, by Dr. Minwalla echoes what we, at the Sisterhood, have been saying for years. Dr. Omar Minwalla is the only professional who really seems to understand the complexity and scope of this thing

Written by a Sister

Written by a Sister who wishes to remain anonymous... “The heart wants what it wants - or else it does not care.” No, that was not Woody Allen, (although he did quote an obscene version

Is There Really a ‘Better Than Ever’ After Discovery?

We have had some interesting discussions in the Sisterhood forums as to whether or not women can find happiness after discovering that they are in a relationship with a sex addict and if their marriage

A Relaxation Gift for My Sisters

As you know from my previous post I am working on some audio tapes to help you relax and feel good about yourselves during this stressful time after Discovery and while trying to make those

Audio Tapes Will Be Available Soon

When I worked as a nurse I was also certified in hypnotherapy and offered classes and audio tapes for weight loss and to assist in stopping smoking. These were highly popular and many of my

Abuse is Abuse is Abuse

The news coverage of Ray Rice brutally beating his fiancee unconscious has brought back a flood of memories for me. I was a teen in the 60's and fought long and hard, alongside other courageous women,

Please Read Dr. Minwalla’s Latest Post

I have the utmost respect for Dr. Omar Milwalla and his work with Partners of Sex Addicts

The Truth About Lying

Some Partners have said that you can always tell when a Sex Addict is lying--because their lips are moving. Unfortunately, that is true. Most Sex Addicts lie out of simple self preservation, preservation of the

Debunking The ‘Men Are Genetically Programmed To Cheat’ Theory

Honestly, I get so sick of reading and hearing over and over that men are genetically programmed to cheat. Those espousing this theory claim that men are programmed to spread their seed far and wide

An Open Letter To Patrick Carnes, Stephanie Carnes, Robert Weiss, All CSAT Counselors And Sex Addiction 12 Step Advocates

Dear Patrick Carnes, Stephanie Carnes, Robert Weiss, All CSAT Counselors And Sex Addiction 12 Step Advocates, Please consider this letter an urgent request to change the current 12 step/co-addict approach that has been perpetuated in the

The 5% Recovery Myth For Sex Addicts

Although the Sex Addiction gurus, like Carnes and Weiss, claim that any Sex Addict can change and recover if they really want to, and some even claim a 100% success rate, those of us who

Personality Disorders In Partners Of Sex Addicts

I have been watching a situation unfold in the forums that has caused me to do some deep soul searching and thinking about our ability to recognize Personality Disorders in Partners of Sex Addicts. The

It’s ‘Just’ Porn-Everyone Does It

How many times have you heard that? 'It's just porn, everyone does it.' Well, considering the statistics, it almost does seem like everyone does it. That's the scary part. Cyber porn is highly addictive, it's