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Here's why everyone should monitor their children's internet activity. You need to watch this video...it's even easier than shown here for kids to stumble across porn. Click this link to watch it on youtube. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fz2Rp_TPs_4) In 2015, the C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children’s Health (link is external) ranked internet safety…
I get that question all the time...Is sex addiction really domestic abuse? Here's what a partner has to say about the abuse that we call Sex Addiction. Fifty years ago, if you were a battered, abused woman, you probably wouldn’t tell domestic's. And if you did, what advice would they have…
Written by MADISON BLANCAFLOR When you think of domestic abuse, physical or verbal assault are probably the first things that come to mind. Unfortunately, financial abuse is often overlooked, even though it occurs in 99% of all domestic violence cases. The effects of financial abuse can last for years or…
I made decisions (mostly bad ones) without facts or reality, decisions that would have been very different if I had been allowed all of the information I deserved and had a right to know.
I received this e-mail from a woman who attended the Doug Weiss Heart To Heart Counseling Center. She said the experience was horrible! Here's what she had to say about that experience. Doug Weiss. HORRIBLE!! 1. When I stated that I was so devastated that I did not want to have…
Everyone has an opinion and opinions seem paramount in discussing sex addiction. Anecdotal evidence is touted as scientific proofs for outrageous recovery and cure rate claims. Treatment centers use methodologies that have no professional basis and claim high success rates. So, why do I take it upon myself to cry 'foul?…
Today 12 step programs are the 'go to' gold standard for sex addiction. But, do 12 Step Programs really work? AA's success as an organization has not been matched by a research record. After 75 years of existence, scientific study had been unable to confirm AA's effectiveness. There certainly is a correlation…
I received this question from a woman who is married to a man who was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and who also is a sex addict. Here is her question: Does anyone have any experience with bipolar and sex addiction? My husband has been diagnosed with bipolar, though he is now…
What to Ask Your Therapist Partners often endure further trauma by therapists who want to call us names such as co-dependent, co-addict or co-sex addict. Many therapists claim to use the ‘trauma model’ but want the Partners to share in the blame, commit to staying with the sex addict for a…
What Partners Say-Sisterhood of Support In this new weekly series, 'What Partners Say' I have gleaned the best of the best testimonials from the private forums of what partners say about sex addiction and the support they get from the Sisterhood. These are all anonymous and any personal information has been removed. Some…
In this new weekly series, 'What Partners Say' I have gleaned the best of the best wisdom from the private forums of what partners say about sex addiction.
One of the first reactions of women who discover that their husband or partner is a sex addict is to get him into sex addiction therapy. But, does that therapy really work?
Why does a man choose hookers over his family? Why didn’t we see this major flaw in our husbands? Why do we stay and have nervous breakdowns when we find out? Why do therapists push us towards acknowledging our part? Why are we triggered? Why can’t we just walk out the door and never look back? Why do we seek help for them? Why do they blame us? Why do our friends and family want us to just get over it? Why did this man who watched me deliver our daughter/son leave the hospital and seek out a prostitue? And the winner is “why can’t they be helped?”
It is time to publicly rate your therapist. Somehow, some way the 'do no harm' philosophy has been lost on CSATs and therapists who counsel sex addicts and their partners. I hear story after story after story of blame shifting, name calling and outright deception and lying about the therapists undisclosed…
This article, by Dr. Minwalla echoes what we, at the Sisterhood, have been saying for years. Dr. Omar Minwalla is the only professional who really seems to understand the complexity and scope of this thing we call 'sex addiction'. This article is so important it should be posted on every Partner's…