Has anyone else had the unfortunate experience of their Sex Addict getting another woman pregnant as a result of the addiction? I have and I wanted to talk about it. its just another facet of this nightmare that i am having trouble dealing with.
I received this desperate message from a woman who was dealing with the pain of her Sex Addict husband getting another woman pregnant. Unfortunately sex addiction and pregnancy is an all too common issue with Sex Addiction that is rarely addressed.
Many sex addicts don’t use protection, and if they are engaging in sex with either affair partners or women who are scam artists, the risk of pregnancy is quite high. Consequences range from broken families to blackmail. Prostitutes usually use some form of birth control and will usually get an abortion if they get pregnant, although they may use the opportunity to coerce the Sex Addict for money.
This is just one of the many risks women are vulnerable to when they are in a relationship with a Sex Addict. It’s unethical that counselors, therapists and CSATs do not address all the risks that partners take when they are encouraged to stay with a Sex Addict. Any woman who remains in a relationship with a Sex Addict should be told of the emotional, physical and financial risks that come if the Sex Addict is not truly in recovery or, as they like to call it…if they ‘slip’ (which partners are told to accept).
If a Sex Addict lies about his recovery, which is very common, and continues his sexual activities outside of the relationship; or has a few ‘slips’, he is putting his partner, his family and his security at a huge risk.
Most partners want to save their marriage, but they need to make the decision to stay knowing all the facts and the risks. STDs, unwanted pregnancies, financial ruin, job loss and jail are all very real possibilities for a man who is engaging in activities that are illegal or that leave him vulnerable to scams or physical harm.
If you choose to stay in a relationship with a Sex Addict it’s wise to have healthy boundaries to keep yourself safe. Hope for the best but plan for the worst and trust but verify.
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