Help for Spouses and Partners of Sex Addicts
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
Here is a video clip of Patrick Carnes describing the partner’s role in a sex addict’s recovery program. In this clip Patrick Carnes says that it ‘takes a while for the partner to gain perspective. To figure out that they are also part of the problem and they need to get help for themselves. Often they have a history of going for emotions and we learned in alcoholism that the spouse is often sicker.’ Carnes […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
I just received an email from a partner of a sex addict. Her husband was arrested for soliciting sex from a minor and was charged with four felony charges. Here is her story. You might want to grab some popcorn or a snack or a cold beverage. Because my story is a Netflix special.I received a knock on my door April 22,2021 I was sitting at my kitchen table eating alone at 7:45pm, because I […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
Here are some of the excuses sex addicts say when they are ‘caught with their pants down’. These are real excuses that real sex addicts have told partners here in the Sisterhood. I had sex with her but I didn’t kiss her I only felt one of her boobs She wasn’t totally naked, she had her stockings on It wasn’t me, It was my penis I’m an open book You know, I never thought of […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
there are more than enough ‘professional opinions’ out there that claim that sex addicts exhibit the same changes in their brains as other addicts. So, this article will assume that this is true simply for argument sake and because indications, such as their personality behaviors, lead me to believe that it is probably so.
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
‘I am the partner of a sex addict, what STD tests do I need? ‘If he’s only watching porn, why do I need to be tested for STDs?’ My answer to the second question is…it’s almost never ‘just porn’. I speak from the experiences of tens of thousands of women who have posted on my websites, it’s rarely just porn. Don’t bet your life on it. Just do it. And, most importantly, it is vital […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
Are you stuck? Are you the partner of a sex addict who just can’t let go even though you know you should? I think every partner has struggled with that question in one way or another. We all have to find the answer within ourselves in our own way and in our own time.
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
I get that question all the time…Is sex addiction really domestic abuse? Here’s what a partner has to say about the abuse that we call Sex Addiction. Fifty years ago, if you were a battered, abused woman, you probably wouldn’t tell anyone and you wouldn’t find a therapist to even listen to you. And even if you did, what advice would they have given you? How to cope, how to stay in an abusive relationship, […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
How on Earth Do You Get Over Sex Addiction Betrayal?
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
I made decisions (mostly bad ones) without facts or reality, decisions that would have been very different if I had been allowed all of the information I deserved and had a right to know.
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
Has anyone else had the unfortunate experience of their Sex Addict getting another woman pregnant as a result of the addiction? I have and I wanted to talk about it. its just another facet of this nightmare that i am having trouble dealing with. I received this desperate message from a woman who was dealing with the pain of her Sex Addict husband getting another woman pregnant. Unfortunately sex addiction and pregnancy is an all too […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
I received this e-mail from a woman who attended the Doug Weiss Heart To Heart Counseling Center. She said the experience was horrible! Here’s what she had to say about that experience. Doug Weiss. HORRIBLE!! 1. When I stated that I was so devastated that I did not want to have sex with my husband, he (Doug Weiss) told me that if I didn’t have sex with my husband that I would lose him (I […]
Written by JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
Everyone has an opinion and opinions seem paramount in discussing sex addiction. Anecdotal evidence is touted as scientific proofs for outrageous recovery and cure rate claims. Treatment centers use methodologies that have no professional basis and claim high success rates. So, why do I take it upon myself to cry ‘foul? It’s because of the voices of tens of thousands of women who have spoken loud and clear about what this thing that is erroneously […]
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