Blog Articles for Partners of Sex Addicts

Where Is The Real Proof About Sex Addiction?

Everyone has an opinion and opinions seem paramount in discussing sex addiction. Anecdotal evidence is touted as scientific proofs for outrageous recovery and cure rate claims. Treatment centers use methodologies that have no professional basis and claim high success rates. So, why do I take

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Do 12 Step Programs Really Work?

Today 12 step programs are the ‘go to’ gold standard for sex addiction. But, do 12 Step Programs really work? AA’s success as an organization has not been matched by a research record. After 75 years of existence, scientific study had been unable to confirm AA’s

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Bipolar and Sex Addiction

I received this question from a woman who is married to a man who was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and who also is a sex addict. Here is her question: Does anyone have any experience with bipolar and sex addiction? My husband has been diagnosed

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What to ask your therapist

What To Ask Your Therapist

What to Ask Your Therapist Partners often endure further trauma by therapists who want to call us names such as co-dependent, co-addict or co-sex addict. Many therapists claim to use the ‘trauma model’ but want the Partners to share in the blame, commit to staying

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What Partners Say About Sex Addiction and Support

What Partners Say-Sisterhood of Support In this new weekly series, ‘What Partners Say’ I have gleaned the best of the best testimonials from the private forums of what partners say about sex addiction and the support they get from the Sisterhood. These are all anonymous and any

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Why? A Partner Speaks On Sex Addiction

Why does a man choose hookers over his family? Why didn’t we see this major flaw in our husbands? Why do we stay and have nervous breakdowns when we find out? Why do therapists push us towards acknowledging our part? Why are we triggered? Why can’t we just walk out the door and never look back? Why do we seek help for them? Why do they blame us? Why do our friends and family want us to just get over it? Why did this man who watched me deliver our daughter/son leave the hospital and seek out a prostitue? And the winner is “why can’t they be helped?”

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Rate Your Therapist

It is time to publicly rate your therapist. Somehow, some way the ‘do no harm’ philosophy has been lost on CSATs and therapists who counsel sex addicts and their partners. I hear story after story after story of blame shifting, name calling and outright deception

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Written by a Sister

Written by a Sister who wishes to remain anonymous… “The heart wants what it wants – or else it does not care.” No, that was not Woody Allen, (although he did quote an obscene version of it as a way to justify running off with

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A Relaxation Gift for My Sisters

As you know from my previous post I am working on some audio tapes to help you relax and feel good about yourselves during this stressful time after Discovery and while trying to make those difficult decisions. Well, if you add the holidays to the

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just say no to abuse

Abuse is Abuse is Abuse

The news coverage of Ray Rice brutally beating his fiancee unconscious has brought back a flood of memories for me. I was a teen in the 60’s and fought long and hard, alongside other courageous women, to win basic rights. Our right to be treated at

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computer privacy

Please Sisters, Protect Our Privacy

Sisters, this website is very private. All of the Sisters depend upon and trust each other to keep our safe place safe. Yet, once in a while our safety is violated by a snooping husband. Even worse is when our safety is violated by a

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The Truth About Lying

Some Partners have said that you can always tell when a Sex Addict is lying–because their lips are moving. Unfortunately, that is true. Most Sex Addicts lie out of simple self preservation, preservation of the facade that they present. Let’s think about it. These guys

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The 5% Recovery Myth For Sex Addicts

Although the Sex Addiction gurus, like Carnes and Weiss, claim that any Sex Addict can change and recover if they really want to, and some even claim a 100% success rate, those of us who have lived and researched the behaviors that are called Sex

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over and over and over

Serial Recovery?

Here on the Sisterhood we have all acknowledged the narcissistic, self-indulgent behaviors of Sex Addicts. But, there is a strange behavior that I noticed in my husband, and in some of the stories that I have read. I am not sure what to call it,

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Decisions

He’s A Sex Addict! Should I Stay Or Go?

When I started my first website almost a decade ago my mission was to offer women who were in a relationship with a Sex Addict the information and resources that I did not have when I made my Discovery. Information that would have helped me

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Cave Men And Evolution

As if we women don’t have enough societal hurdles and hoops to jump through, here we have what appears to be a sensible review of a new book that exposes the greed driven practices of  pharmaceutical companies that want to make women’s normalcy and uniqueness

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Porn Is Just A Typo Away

Here’s why everyone should monitor their children’s internet activity.* -The average age of someone finding porn online is 11. -Sex and Porn are among the top 5 search terms for kids under 18. -Only 3% of adult web sites require age verification. -Fewer than half

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we still have a long way to go baby

We Still Have A Long Way To Go Baby

NOTE: I wrote this article in 2011. Sadly, things have not changed, in fact, they have gotten worse. It’s a sad commentary on so called civilized societies. I ran across this article and it just made my blood boil. The pervasive conservative, religious right wing

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Help! My Husband is a Sex Addict!

If  you have discovered that your boyfriend or husband is a sex addict you probably feel confused and alone, with no one to turn to who truly understands what you are going through. The Sisterhood is here to help you.

 The Sisterhood online support group is a completely private and safe place to share your stories, thoughts questions and comments. With dozens of forums, tens of thousands of topics and over 100,000 comments, you will find help and support, from women just like you, who have discovered that their boyfriend or husband is a sex addict. 

The Sisterhood is a ‘women only’ group and we have members from all over the world.

The Sisterhood of Support group is for partners, about partners and with partners. We all understand what you are going through because we have all been there. 

You will find the answers, honesty and resources that you need to regain your stability and start on your path toward healing.

So, why not give it a try? Click the ‘Subscribe’ menu tab and I’ll see you on the inside.

Coaching for Partners of Sex Addicts

With JoAnn Russell, RN, MS
Certified Life Coach
Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Practitioner
Stress Management Coach

Coaching combined with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Stress Management sessions are developed specifically for Partners of sex addicts.

My programs use a partner centered treatment model, which means that I am focused on YOU and YOUR healing; as opposed to sex addiction programs, CSAT therapists, 12 step groups or couples counseling therapy, which focus on the sex addict and often re-traumatize the partner by placing blame or minimizing the trauma she has endured.

Plans can be custom tailored to your needs and/or budget.  Online video or phone sessions.

Information for Partners of Sex Addicts

I Am Not What Happened To Me. I Am What I Choose To Become.

NEW! Trauma Recovery Series for Partners of Sex Addicts

This video series for partners of sex addicts outlines some of the most important, and very first things that a partner should consider after discovering that the person they are in an intimate relationship with may be a sex addict.

Mission Statement

To Provide A Safe And Nurturing Environment For The Expression Of Opinions And Ideas In Order To Enhance The Knowledge, Growth And Healing Of Partners Of Sex Addicts.

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