It is time to publicly rate your therapist.
Somehow, some way the ‘do no harm’ philosophy has been lost on CSATs and therapists who counsel sex addicts and their partners. I hear story after story after story of blame shifting, name calling and outright deception and lying about the therapists undisclosed addictions. It is time to expose these charlatans and hold them accountible.
Partners are encouraged to accept the sex addict’s bad behaviors and slips, engage in sexual activity without addressing the physical and emotional risks and to refrain from voicing their despair, trauma and anger by calling it ‘shaming’ the addict, thus causing them to act out again.
Partners are admonished if we refuse to accept part of the blame for the secret life that these men lead and we are told that we need to make amends and literally morph into a Stepford type personality to accomodate the addict’s special needs.
In essence we are shamed for our normal, healthy emotions and responses while the addict is allowed to express his with abandon.
This is the 12 step model. This is the treatment modalities that profess to address the ‘Trauma Model’ but do so in name only in order to attract more partners into treatment.
This has to stop!
The Sisterhood, along with the Married To A Sex Addict site will now name names and post reviews of therapists and programs that offer treatment for sex addicts and their partners.
Post your comments below. Please give the therapist’s name and city and any other details you would like to your comment and share your experiences and details.
This will be open to the public so if you wish to remain anonymous please register with a user name that will not be identifiable. If you are not sure how to do that just contact me at JoAnn@sisterhoodofsupport.org ~ JoAnn