Written by The Sisterhood Of Support has had a long and healthy run. Born of an idea from a small group of partners of sex addicts who were quite active on my Blog site, marriedtoasexaddict.com, I created the Sisterhood of Support as a very private and safe place for partners to share their stories of pain and trauma, hope and support as they navigated through the complexities of being in a relationship with and loving a sex … Continue reading “The Forums Are Being Archived”
Here’s why everyone should monitor their children’s internet activity. You need to watch this video…it’s even easier than shown here for kids to stumble across porn. Click the link that says ‘Watch on YouTube’ to see the video. In 2015, the C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children’s Health (link is external) ranked internet safety as #4 in the top 10 health concerns for children. Ranking ahead of school violence. According to TopTenreviews.com the average age of first … Continue reading “Porn and Children”
Here is a video clip of Patrick Carnes describing the partner’s role in a sex addict’s recovery program. In this clip Patrick Carnes says that it ‘takes a while for the partner to gain perspective. To figure out that they are also part of the problem and they need to get help for themselves. Often they have a history of going for emotions and we learned in alcoholism that the spouse is often sicker.’ Carnes … Continue reading “Here’s How the Sex Addiction Industry REALLY Treats Partners of Sex Addicts”
I just received an email from a partner of a sex addict. Her husband was arrested for soliciting sex from a minor and was charged with four felony charges. Here is her story. You might want to grab some popcorn or a snack or a cold beverage. Because my story is a Netflix special.I received a knock on my door April 22,2021 I was sitting at my kitchen table eating alone at 7:45pm, because I … Continue reading “My Husband Was Caught Soliciting Sex From a Minor”
Here are some of the excuses sex addicts say when they are ‘caught with their pants down’. These are real excuses that real sex addicts have told partners here in the Sisterhood. I had sex with her but I didn’t kiss her I only felt one of her boobs She wasn’t totally naked, she had her stockings on It wasn’t me, It was my penis I’m an open book You know, I never thought of … Continue reading “Excuses Sex Addicts Say When They Are Caught”
Are you in the throes of helping your spouse or boyfriend with his sex addiction recovery? Most of us try, but end up failing miserably because we enable the sex addict rather than supporting him. And no, I am not saying that it’s your fault if he fails–that is totally on him. Here are some ways to avoid the pitfalls while finding our way along a very difficult journey. So, how do you know if … Continue reading “5 Signs You Are Enabling Your Sex Addict”
Have you been wondering if your sex addict husband/boyfriend is a narcissist? Have you spent hours on youtube and long evenings reading articles comparing your sex addict’s behaviors with the traits of narcissists? Are you now an expert on Narcissistic Personality Disorder? If so, you are not alone. Even professionals are questioning if sex addicts are narcissists. It seems quite trendy to label anyone who appears selfish and self serving as a narcissist. Unfortunately there … Continue reading “Are Sex Addicts Narcissists?”
there are more than enough ‘professional opinions’ out there that claim that sex addicts exhibit the same changes in their brains as other addicts. So, this article will assume that this is true simply for argument sake and because indications, such as their personality behaviors, lead me to believe that it is probably so.
Should I leave a sex addict? What happens if I do leave a sex addict? Well, of course, your life changes if you leave a sex addict. And that’s a good thing, but usually it sure doesn’t feel that way. Many partners are reluctant to leave a sex addict because they fear change. And, because of the stress they are under, it is natural to ‘catastrophize’ the change, to imagine the worst scenarios, to doubt … Continue reading “Should I Leave a Sex Addict?”
‘I am the partner of a sex addict, what STD tests do I need? ‘If he’s only watching porn, why do I need to be tested for STDs?’ My answer to the second question is…it’s almost never ‘just porn’. I speak from the experiences of tens of thousands of women who have posted on my websites, it’s rarely just porn. Don’t bet your life on it. Just do it. And, most importantly, it is vital … Continue reading “I am the Partner of Sex Addict What STD Tests Do I Need?”
Should you stay with a sex addict? Most of us do stay with our sex addicts…for as long as it takes for us to realize they cannot change, or until we realize how much we have changed.
Are you stuck? Are you the partner of a sex addict who just can’t let go even though you know you should? I think every partner has struggled with that question in one way or another. We all have to find the answer within ourselves in our own way and in our own time.